If standard sleep advice isn't working, you aren't doing it wrong. We build gentle, evidence-based sleep plans for tired parents, with a different approach for those who had a traumatic birth.
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You've read the books. Tried the plans. Followed the schedules. And you're still not sleeping. Standard sleep support was not built for what you've experienced.
You've probably been told:
Birth isn't simply something that happens to us, it's our first major transition. As research shows, the quality of that experience (whether calm or chaotic, supported or frightening) creates early templates in the nervous system for both you and your baby.
If your birth didn't go as planned, your nervous system may still be registering a lack of safety. And when the body doesn't feel safe, it won't sleep. That is physiological, not a parenting failure.
Most sleep consultants start with your baby's sleep logs. We start with your birth story.
I grew up in Central Java, Indonesia, and since 2021 I've lived in Paris, London, and now Barcelona. I'm raising my daughter without the family support systems I grew up around so I know first-hand how isolating early parenthood can feel when you're far from home.
After experiencing a traumatic birth with my daughter, I've become passionate about the ways in which understanding birth trauma can change the trajectory of sleep for both baby and mother. That curiosity turned into training, and training turned into this work.
My approach is simple: I look at the birth story first, because no sleep plan works well until the family's nervous system is ready. I use my lived experience and professional training to build something your family can actually follow.
Auriane was born under the very bright lights of an operating theatre.
Like other first-time mothers, I had spent a great deal of time preparing for a calm, relaxed birth. From continuing to do sport, to hypnobirthing classes and daily breathwork. I was sure the birth of my daughter was going to be beautiful.
At week 38+4, my water broke but labour did not start naturally. Despite being admitted for observation, my husband and I remained positive, excited even. We knew that no matter what happened, we were going home with our baby.
After 24 hours of observation, the OB decided to induce me. First, they used prostaglandin to soften the cervix. Nine hours later, even breathing through contractions, I was still very excited. I even found a video of myself putting on makeup, getting ready to meet our first child.
Things were not progressing, and as a result I was given Pitocin. I had opted for a walking epidural because I wanted to keep some control during what was becoming a very long labour. The contractions I felt were painful and intense. I was reassured this was normal for a walking epidural.
26 hours after the start of the induction, my cervix had not dilated beyond 6cm. My baby's heart rate also decelerated three times. Each time the baby's heart rate tanked, a medical team would arrive looking very concerned, talking amongst themselves, repositioning my body again and again. Between the worried conversations and the constant noise of the fetal monitor, I tried very hard to breathe and stay calm.
I remember whispering (we didn't know yet she was a girl) "stay with me, you can do it."
After the second deceleration, the team agreed the best course of action was a c-section. I happily signed the consent form. We just wanted to go home with our baby, safely.
"Thank you. We are going to prepare the surgery room. It will take around two hours, and in the meantime a team will stay here to monitor you and your baby," said one of the midwives.
My husband went to get changed, preparing to accompany me during the surgery. And in that time, I sensed something was wrong. I asked the team to check my baby's heart rate. They were sure she was fine; but I insisted.
I was right. Her heart rate was decelerating again. This time, fast.
I was wheeled into the theatre. I caught a glimpse of my husband just stepping out of the changing room, as clueless as I was. Neither of us knew what was happening.
The theatre was very bright and very noisy. I had the impression of being in a rush hour. And then, I felt it. The incision. The light above me was blinding. I could feel the pressure, the heat, and then the pain; like a hot knife slowly drawn across my skin.
I was shaking uncontrollably. I screamed in Spanish: "Me duele mucho, por favor, ¿cuánto tiempo más?" and I didn't even speak Spanish then.
I remember someone holding my hand and saying, "You are doing great, just hold on." In the middle of all of it, someone else told me to stop shaking.
And then my husband pressed our baby's cheek against mine. He whispered, "My love, we have a baby girl." The only reaction I could give was another wailing scream.
The next day, an OB-GYN came to our room and apologised for how the c-section had to happen. She had tears in her eyes when she said, "I was there, and I could hear you in pain." She told us there simply had not been enough time to ensure proper anaesthesia. They had to get our daughter out as quickly as possible.
In a way, that doctor gave me some closure. But the birth of my first daughter was so traumatic that it changed me as a person. I don't have many photos or videos from those early days, the trauma made it hard to be present.
I was later diagnosed with PTSD, and I went through EMDR therapy.
This is why I became a baby sleep consultant. I know what it means to start motherhood not the way you had planned. If my story resonates with you, know that you are not alone, and that things can get better.
Three ways to get support. Choose what feels right for where you are right now.
We start with your birth story, not your baby's routine. Together we build a sleep plan that fits your family's energy, capacity, and nervous system.
For parents who just need a clear head and a practical next step. You're probably doing better than you think.
I come to you. I look at your baby's sleep environment, your bedtime routine, and what's actually happening in the room. Then we talk through what I found.
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A 20-minute chat to see if we're the right fit. No pressure, no pitch.
We start with your birth experience. You're welcome to share as much or as little as you like.
A sleep plan built around your family's real life, not a template copied from a book.
Six weeks of WhatsApp support while you put the plan into practice. I'm there for the hard nights too.
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